Diagnosing Domestic Abuse

Posted on by Robert J. Reeves

There are many different reasons to pursue a divorce. Maybe your spouse cheated, you’re just not happy, or maybe, you’re a victim of domestic abuse. Diagnosing domestic abuse in your own relationship can be difficult, which is why it can often be much easier for the people around you to see the signs, and make you aware of them. For this reason, we want to shed some light on domestic abuse. Whether you’re the victim yourself, or are concerned that someone close to you is, it’s important to know the signs— and bring them to their attention.

Diagnosing Domestic Abuse: Supporting Loved Ones 

When it is emotional…

You might feel like it’s normal to be afraid of your partner, or anxious to bring certain things up. However, these hesitations are not normal behavior for a couple. Fear of any kind has no place in a relationship that is healthy, thriving, and happy.

If you find that your partner bullies you in any capacity, controls, threatens, or tries to embarrass you— this is a surefire sign of domestic abuse. One of the largest misconceptions about abuse is that it’s always something you can see. Sometimes, abuse is purely emotional— which makes it more difficult to diagnose, especially from the outside looking in.

When it is physical…

While not all abuse is physical, much of it is. If your partner is 1) leaving you places because you’ve upset them, 2) embarrassing you in front your loved ones or strangers, 3) physically assaults you, or anything of the like— you’re dealing with domestic abuse.

Domestic abuse can come in all forms. From emotional abuse, physical abuse, and even sexual abuse. One common misconception that people have, is that when you’re in a relationship— sex is warranted at any point in time. However, you are not required to be intimate with your significant other merely because you are together.

Diagnosing domestic abuse can be difficult…

After all, no one wants to think that the person they love most is capable of hurting them in such a way. Furthermore, the people you love don’t want to consider this either. However, domestic abuse is quite common amongst couples of all age groups. If you think that you, or someone you love, is experiencing some form of domestic abuse— find a way to address it. Whether you go to someone for help, or attempt to get your loved one alone to discuss. The key is to address the situation, separate the dangerous person, and go from there to further distance the relationship.
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We wish you luck in this difficult time, and offer our condolences for the pain and suffering you’re enduring. Furthermore, we also offer our services if you find that you may need them.

Short-Term Marriage & Divorce: How It Differs

Posted on by Robert J. Reeves

No one goes into a marriage expecting to get a divorce. However, unfortunately, divorce does happen, and sometimes it can happen quickly. You might think that a divorce would be easier if you’re married for a short time. However, these kinds of divorces also brings about their own set of problems. As a result of these problems, there are a few things to be aware of when getting a divorce after a short-term marriage…

Short-Term Marriage & Divorce 

Acknowledge Your Emotions

Just because you’re getting a divorce after a short-term marriage, doesn’t mean it won’t hurt just as bad. In fact, it can be even more difficult as you face people who might try to say “I told you so”. Negative anecdotes can make this already painful process even more difficult. The truth is, everyone experiences the emotions of a divorce in a different way, and the length of a marriage doesn’t define the pain you feel. It’s important that you take the time to understand and accept the emotions you’re feeling. Consider finding a good support group, or going to a therapist, which can help you deal with your emotions and mentally prepare for the divorce.

Take Stock of What You Have

Getting a divorce after a short term-marriage generally means you and your spouse had less time to accumulate property together. However, in any case, the court considers marital and non-marital property in a divorce. Non-marital property can be tricky, especially in a short-term marriage. The rule of thumb typically goes like this: non-marital property, such as a home or business, can become marital property if that property is used to support the family, make profit together, or so forth. When non-marital property becomes something that both marital properties work on together in any way, it can become marital property.

However, in some cases, it can go to one side or the other. When it comes to property and asset division, your attorney will be an asset to the team.

Make Preparations for the Future

While your divorce is ongoing, that doesn’t mean that your life is on pause. It’s important to make sure you prepare fully for your life post-divorce. This might mean finding a new place to live if you are not taking on the family home. Furthermore, it can even mean getting a new job if you have to relocate a considerable distance.

Keep in mind that, with getting a divorce after a short-term marriage, some courts will usually not award alimony. Depending on your situation, they may only award a small amount. Every case is different. Due to the difficulty these changes can bring, you should prepare in advance.

Getting a divorce can be a rough time mentally and financially, no matter the length of the marriage. Not to mention, apart from the hardship of divorce proceedings, it can be heartbreaking for your marriage to fail. But, that’s not to say you can’t handle it, and rise from the occasion. We wish you luck in your divorce, offer our condolences for this difficult time, and urge you to seek out an attorney.