Divorce can be a difficult time for those who experience it. However, the first months post-divorce can also be pretty hard as well. Still, once that hurdle is cleared, things become much easier. That’s why it’s important to know how to thrive in those first few months…
First Months Post-Divorce: Making Changes
Keep yourself busy
One of the things you’ll want to avoid doing during those first months post-divorce is wallowing and isolating yourself. Now, wallowing is much different from normally feeling sad or upset. Whereas the later will eventually pass and you’ll feel better in the end, wallowing keeps you stuck and from doing anything. Therefore, you’re going to want to avoid this potential stagnation.
It helps to keep yourself busy during these first few months. Try to get started on the things you need to do to get your post-divorce life going. This could include home improvement, working, or exploring new hobbies. It’s okay to have those days where you need to be alone and gather your thoughts. What’s important is being able to pick yourself up the next day and keep going.
Look for support
Another helpful way to survive those first months post-divorce is to look for some support. Now, your friends and family have probably already been a large support group for you. Still, they might not know exactly what you’re dealing with. That’s why specialized support can be handy.
For example, you can look for any divorce support groups you can join. These groups will be filled with people who have dealt with, or are dealing with the same stuff you are. You can also try out counselling too. There, you can learn some strategies of how to deal with and work through the emotions you’re feeling.
Do what’s best for you
During these first months post-divorce, you’re probably going to hear a lot of people giving their opinions about what you should do. Now, odds are that they mean well, but they ultimately don’t know you like you know yourself. That’s why it’s important to always remember that you should do what’s ultimately the best thing for you.
For instance, maybe people might start asking you if you’ve thought about dating again. However, that’s really none of their business. Instead, you should only date if and when you feel comfortable enough to do so. After all, your personal happiness is the most important thing, especially after your divorce.