Social Media Management: Avoid Divorce Issues

These days, social media is a great tool for keeping in contact with others and having a place to speak your mind. During a divorce, however, you have to be mindful about what exactly you’re posting. Posting the wrong thing can lead to potential repercussions down the line. To help avoid this happening to you, here are some tips for social media management…

Social Media Management: Watch Your Content

Don’t Start Public Fights

One key aspect about social media management that many people forget is to avoid speaking ill about their spouses. These can be posts directly, or even indirectly, referring to your spouses. These kinds of posts should be avoided, because of how they can come back to bite you in the courtroom.

Your spouse can use these types of posts as evidence for why you shouldn’t be granted things like custody, or alimony. If you’re on the receiving end of a post like this, make sure to take the high road. Screenshot the posts and let your lawyer deal with them during the proceedings. If you feel the need to vent, it’s best to do so to a counselor or close friend rather than online.

Consider What Your Friends Post

Something else to consider when trying social media management is what your friends might post on their pages. You might have been focusing on a well-kept and respectable social media presence, but your friends might not. Consider what kind of content your friends usually post on their pages.

For example, if they tend to post a lot of pictures, be careful about allowing them to post ones with you in them. Your spouse could use pictures of you from parties, or a night at the bar against you in court. A good policy to use is allowing your friends to post anything you’d be fine with your family seeing.

Avoid Your Ex’s Pages

It can be tempting when using social media during divorce to check on your ex’s pages. Maybe you’re curious on how they’re moving on or handling things compared to you. However, all you’ll be doing is making it harder for yourself to begin moving on. If you allow yourself to become consumed with what your ex is doing, then your not giving yourself the time to process how you feel. If something important happens involving your ex that requires your attention, odds are they or someone else will let you know.

Social media is a great tool for connecting with people. However, it can turn into your worst enemy if used improperly. When using social media management, make sure to keep an eye on what you or others are posting to avoid future headaches down the road.

Extra Income: Single Parent Pluses

After a divorce, newly-single parents may seem to be facing financial hardships they are not used to facing. Because of the difference in income (a dual income home becoming a single income home), it is understandable why parents would need an extra income. Here are some ways you can generate an extra income as a single parent.

Extra Income: Ideas for Single Parents


Writing is a great idea for an extra income. Because content writing is growing in popularity for a multitude of websites, writing on the side can become a lucrative and easy addition to your income. You can do it on your own time and write as little or as much as you want.

Pet Sitting

There is an art to pet sitting that not everyone has, but it certainly is an extra income that is easy to make. You can start by making small flyers for your neighborhood or simply by word of mouth. Pet sitting can vary from daily walks to over-night, long term stays. You decide what you are comfortable doing and what works best with your schedule. Additionally, the therapy from hanging out with a dog for a little while will boost your mood!

Online Selling

With the growing popularity of online marketplaces, it is easier than ever to sell unused or unwanted items online. You can declutter and earn some cash at the same time! This extra income will require a small amount of time and planning: you’ll have to coordinate with others to meet up.

Tax Preparation

While it is past tax season for this year, you can get your license and prepare for next year’s season. Tax season is busy since literally everyone has to file by a certain date. This form of extra income is seasonal, but worth it if you don’t mind the extra hours.

Part Time Jobs

While it may seem like a commitment, a part time job will be an extra income that could also bring other benefits. Some stores give a discount for employees that could also help your family. If you get a 10% discount on food and other necessities, you’re not only earning an extra few dollars, but saving them, too!

Traveling Post-Divorce

Many people like to take trips or vacations after their divorce is over. These trips can help them clear their heads and relax after such a stressful time. However, it’s important to make sure you stay safe while traveling post-divorce. There are some different ways in which you can make sure you both enjoy yourself and stay protected…

Traveling Post-Divorce: Staying Safe

Do some research

Before you do any traveling post-divorce, it’s a good idea to do some research. An area that you might’ve considered safe before might not be so safe now. Or, it could be the other way around. That’s why it’s a good idea to do some research on any places you’re thinking about traveling to, both domestically and abroad.

However, make sure to do some good digging when doing this research. Don’t just look up one article and go off of that alone. Instead, search around for several articles, statistics, and other people’s personal experiences. For example, a good tool tool to use for international travel is the Department of State’s travel advisory website.

Stay in-touch with others

Another important tip for traveling post-divorce is staying in touch with others. It’s a good idea to let your friends and family know where you’re going, how long you’ll be there for, and what your plans are. That way, they’ll know where you are just in case something happens.

Your cell phone is a great tool for staying safe. Not only can you get in touch with friends and family, you can also use it to get in touch with other resources like the local authorities. It’s a good idea to check in with your cell carrier to let them know you’ll be traveling and to allow any foreign charges. Also, brush up on the important emergency numbers if you’re travelling abroad.

Keep the valuables separated

Items like your wallet, phone, and passport are crucial for traveling post-divorce. Therefore, you’re going to want to keep them safe. It’s a good idea to make use of hotel safes, for instance, so these items aren’t just left out in the open.

Another good idea is to spread these items out. For example, keep one credit card on you, another back in your room, and some cash in a bag. That way, if you lose your wallet, you won’t be completely without any money.

Financial Mistakes

When you get a divorce, a lot of things become new. You’re learning how to cook for one less person and you’re tackling weekend projects solo. It’s usually not a problem adapting to things post-divorce, but is everything that easy? Financial mistakes happen often after divorce. Because of the new situation, many are not prepared. Below, we’ll discuss the most common financial mistakes those new to divorce make.

Financial Mistakes During Divorce

Equal Division of Property

Sometimes it is not as easy as simply cutting it down the middle. When dividing up assets, make sure you keep in mind the residual values and not just current market values. Common financial mistakes often include divisions of property because of their complexity.

For example, you and your ex spouse may own two properties that have a $200,000 value. One is the family home and the other is a rental property. Each spouse getting one of those homes would not be equal because the rental property will continue to generate income. Remember these aspects when dividing property and other money-generating assets.


Expenses can hit a newly single person like a ton of bricks. Don’t let your expenses be one of your post-divorce financial mistakes! Take the time to understand how much you make each month, after taxes. After figuring this out, create a budget and stick to it. After you’ve adjusted to a single income, start planning for the future. Remember that most expenses grow, not lessen, as time goes on.

Child Support Reliance

Relying on child support means relying on your former spouse to make money. If you have concerns about their finances, make sure you avoid the financial mistakes associated with child support. Take the necessary actions to secure this piece of income. 

Additionally, the court will allow you to request disability or life insurance for your ex. Doing so will insure that you are financially secure should a catastrophe happen. Keep in mind that people can cancel a policy at any time. If you are worried about this happening, you can request a court order for your ex-spouse to make the appropriate payments.

Divorce Insomnia: Fighting Sleeplessness

Divorce can bring about a lot of stress. Sometimes, this stress can start to effect you in several different ways, especially with your sleep. Divorce insomnia prevents you from getting the rest you need to go about your divorce and your life properly. However, there are some ways which you can help your body get the sleep it needs…

Divorce Insomnia: How To Fight It

Avoid stimulants & other things

Divorce insomnia is made worse when you eat or drink the wrong things before it’s time to sleep. Things with sugar, caffeine, nicotine, or alcohol in them are some of the most common culprits. These will inhibit your body’s ability to sleep and could potentially make your insomnia get worse.

Instead, it’s better to do your best to avoid these things before you sleep. Generally, it’s good to plan on not having these sleep inhibitors at least 3 hours before you sleep. In their place, it’s a good idea to have more healthy options like water. Avoiding these inhibitors will allow your body to better rest and recover during the night.

Limit distractions

Another important part of fighting divorce insomnia is limiting potential distractions. Too much light or noise exposure can prevent your body from sleeping properly. In fact, your body might instead think it’s time to be awake, further hurting your ability to get a good night’s rest.

It’s important to limit your exposure to these potential distractions. Try to sleep in a dark room, and use things like blackout curtains to help remove any outside light. If you’re worried about outside noise, it might be a good idea to invest in some noise-cancelling headphones. Also, try to limit your phone or computer usage at night, as the “blue light” can limit your ability to properly sleep.

Empty out your worries

Divorce insomnia tends to begin due to all of your thoughts and worries about the divorce. These racing and negative thoughts can end up keeping you awake throughout the night. However, that doesn’t mean you have to keep them bottled up inside. Instead, it’s a good idea to get them out before you try to sleep. 

You might want to consider keeping a journal or something similar where you can write your thoughts out. That way, they won’t be stuck running around in your head. Often times, it helps to write out what you feel, and many people will feel better as a result.

Gray Divorce: Separation At All Stages

Many people might consider divorce to be something more for younger couples. However, while divorce rates for younger people have been going down, they have actually been increasing for those over 50. This kind of divorce, known as gray divorce, occurs for several different reasons. Knowing these reasons can help you see what challenges marriages face as time goes on…

Gray Divorce: What It Is & Why It Happens

Drifting apart

Growing apart is one of the most common reasons for gray divorce. People are always changing as they grow older. Sometimes, this change can result in a disconnect between partners. Over time, they realize that they’ve changed from who they were when they first got married.

This change can show itself in several ways. Empty nest syndrome-the feeling of your home being empty after your child has left-is a common cause. After you’re no longer busy raising a child, you might question what you do now. Furthermore, retirement can also evoke similar feelings of realizing you no longer relate to your partner anymore.

Looking for something new

Feeling stuck in a “same old, same old” routine can leave you looking for something new. This same idea applies to marriage as well. If you feel like you’re just “going through the motions” of your marriage, then you might want to find some new things to do. For many couples, this results in them choosing a gray divorce.

As a person gets older, they might feel like it’s time to do all the things they’ve wanted to but never had the time for. However, their partner might not share that active mentality. When this disconnect occurs, a couple might realizes that it’s better to divorce rather than stay together.


Unfortunately, infidelity doesn’t stop as couples get older. Cheating is a major factor for couples who choose to get a gray divorce. However, there might be some different reasons for why an older person chooses to cheat compared to other ones.

A person might choose to cheat because as they get older, they no longer find their partner attractive. They may also believe that finding someone younger can help them feel younger as well. This can ultimately lead to them cheating and a potential divorce.

Family Events: How To Handle Them

There’s no real “perfect” time to get a divorce. Most people try to avoid starting a divorce around holidays or birthdays, but a divorce can take some time. That’s why it’s important to know how to handle family events during divorce. That way, you can make these events as successful as possible while still handling your divorce…

Family Events: How To Handle Them

Remember your shared goals

Defining goals and potential concerns is a big aspect of mediation. This is different from defining a position. For example, saying you deserve to keep the house is a position, whereas saying you need housing that’s close to your child’s school is a goal. This similar process can be applied to handling family events during divorce.

Ask your partner what your goals and concerns are for an upcoming event. Most people will see that their goals are usually similar: they want their family or kids to enjoy the event and for everyone to have a good time. Still, you might have some concerns, like about potential arguments. However, once you’ve identified these goals and concerns, you can start making a plan.

Develop your plan

A good plan is key for managing family events during divorce. The more developed your plan is, the better your chances are for the event going smoothly. Try to think about the whole event, from beginning to end, and come up with a plan that is both realistic and enjoyable.

Still, you and your partner might not agree on certain parts of the plan. In these cases, try to consider if what you or they are suggesting is feasible or more difficult. You want to be flexible, but you also have to recognize when things might not work. The best way to handle this is to explain to your spouse any issues you see and why in a clear and calm manner.

Prepare for success

Working with your spouse is one part of making family events during divorce a success. The other part comes down to how you prepare for these events. That means setting yourself up for success well in advance through good self-care measures.

It’s important to get enough rest and eat enough before going to these events. Divorce can be quite a draining a process. However, being tired or hungry will lessen your ability to enjoy these events. That’s why you should try to get plenty of sleep and have a full stomach beforehand.

Social Life Post-Divorce: Finding Friendships New & Old

When you were married, a lot of your time and energy went into your relationship. However, now you have the ability to put that energy into your social life post-divorce. This will let you reevaluate and strengthen friendships, as well as make some new ones along the way…

Social Life Post-Divorce

Consider your current friendships

During your divorce, odds are that your friends were a big part of your support network. However, it’s important to tell the difference from real friends like these, and others who you may not be as close too. As a result, your social life post-divorce will require you to really consider which friends are good ones, and which ones aren’t.

Think of your friends and ask yourself how they treat you and how you feel around them. Do you really enjoy being around them and do they treat you with respect? Or, do you only hang out with them due to convenience, despite them being rude or mean? In these cases, it might be time to let those kinds of friends go.

Rekindle old friendships

As you think about your current friends, you might think about some old ones too. These may be friends that you haven’t seen or heard from in a long time. Maybe they distanced themselves because of your ex, or you just simple fell out of touch over time. Part of your social life post-divorce can be reaching out to these old friends and trying to rekindle your friendships.

If there’s someone out there you want to reach out to, don’t hesitate. With social media and the internet, it’s very easy to shoot them a message and see how they’ve been. Just a simple message about how it’s been a while and you’d like to catch up if they have the time can be all that’s needed.

Make new friends

Old friends are just one part of your social life post-divorce. There’s also new friends to consider. Coming off of your divorce gives you a lot of freedom to do the things you’ve wanted to, but couldn’t. These hobbies and activities are a great way to meet some like-minded people, and potentially new friends.

Still, when talking to a potential new friends, don’t ramble on about your divorce or your ex. For starters, you never know if they could know your ex as well. Plus, it creates a negative first impression. Remember that focusing on the past isn’t the way to move forward.